“Like a city that is broken into and without walls
Is a man who has no control over his spirit. (Proverbs 25:28 NASB)”
In Old Testament times, major cities would often be fortified with large stone walls surrounding them. The erection of these walls was no doubt labor-intensive, time-consuming and expensive. However, once completed these walls served as an effective deterrent to invading armies, since the walls could only be breached by large armies able to surround the city and mount an extended siege.
Many times our culture tries to teach us that manhood consists solely of machismo, and that self-control is for wimps. But clearly that's not the case from God's point of view. Think about it: how many men's lives and families have been traumatized by lack of self-control? Whether it comes in the form of verbal, physical or sexual abuse of women and children, pornography, substance abuse or addictions of other kinds, the lack of self-control has wreaked havoc on our society.
At the same time, there is hope! Our walls can be rebuilt, but it will take time, effort, patience, resilience and willingness to accept help from others. We rebuild our walls one stone at a time, taking the many truths from God's word that have been given to protect us and putting them in their proper place. What it takes to start is the realization that our self-control is worth the time, the effort and the fight to reclaim and possess. Self-control is a gift of God's Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). Don't let the enemy take away what God wants you to have.
Welcome to the fight!